You may think this blog is about being born Transsexual.
Maybe you think it’s about establishing you are, and the how
to proceed in/with treatment.
Maybe you think I’m here to help girls born with the
transsexual medical condition? (To a degree yes, but)
You’d be wrong.
This blog is about living life as a woman and how I
experience life as one. The things I do and have learned, in my relatively
short time on this earth living the life I live.
If there is mention in my posts about Transsexualism and
issues relevant to that condition (and there will likely often be) that is simply
because I was born with that condition and it has shaped my outlook/perspective
on life in some ways.
Some women WERE born with that condition, I am one of them.
However, that is just one factor that has influenced me and how I experience
life.
Many of the things in this blog are relevant to women on the
whole. The blog is about WOMANHOOD (see title) not TRANSSEXUAL-HOOD, or
TRANSSEXUAL BORN WOMAN-hood.
Just womanhood.
OK, So having said that; I’d like to share an aspect of life
that has developed in me as I’ve grown from a girl to a young woman.
Most females are born destined to grow into and be women. They are NOT born already women, they are born girls and mature into women as they age and gain the level of life experience that their culture or society requires of them, before it considers them to be no longer a girl, but from then on, a woman.
There is no celebration, no official ceremony, womanhood
just becomes apparent to the individual and those around her, as her life
progresses and she matures and the title becomes relevant to her.
Society and human instinct are a wondrous, fascinating and
truly magnificent machine; that for all intents and purposes, is totally
invisible to 99% of the world’s (willingly oblivious) population.
"Get to the point" you say!
Ok.
There is much more that separates males and females, men and
women, then simply the physical traits that make up their body. More than Chromosomes,
more than genetics, more than reproductive capabilities.
Certainly, those things are all factors, however, there is
an even bigger factor that is more often that not completely overlooked and/or
not even recognized or understood by the bulk of society.
Sex Identity....
That which is innate in a person’s brain.
Although it is not understood by common people or even
considered, every human has the instinctive ability to sense it in another
person.
We don’t have to check a person’s “draws” to know where they
fit in the world relative to sex, and how that aspect of them could potentially
relate to us.
There are things that separate a male and a female (innate)
sex identity that go further than just what genitals they are each supposed to
have, and those other aspects also help us identify who is what, as they are
displayed visibly to others through our actions and emotions.
If you are someone with a male (innate) sex identity; you
KNOW subconsciously (and possibly also consciously), that you are, and so does
everyone else. There are aspects of a female sex identity that you will never poses
or attain, things that are required fundamentally, in order for others to
identify you as female, and the same but opposite goes for females.
Basically, you ARE what you ARE (in the brain) and always
have been, regardless of whether people have always recognised you correctly or
not.
Anyway, so I want to talk about an aspect of a female sex
identity that has developed in me over time, and that I think is relevant to
all women and girls developing into women.
What is it?
I have come to think this thing, these “abilities” are what
society uses to draw the line between girl and woman.
Each girl must learn and develop these traits in herself if
she is to mature into a woman.
What are they?
Just like there are traits that men have, abilities unique
to their sex (things like physical strength etc), that give them capabilities
and advantages in certain aspects of life over women. Women also have their own
set of abilities that are unique to THEIR sex, and that give THEM certain
advantages over men in certain aspects of life.
This is often not known about, because in women, the
additional abilities aren’t often as outwardly visible as they are in men.
Women have heightened senses in comparison to men.
Humans see with their eyes, hear with their ears, smell with
their nose, taste with their tongue etc etc.
That is commonly understood by most, but what isn’t
understood, is that as a girl develops into a woman (and in order FOR her to),
she hones and increases her sensory abilities.
To grow from a girl to a woman, she must develop the ability
to see not just with her eyes, but also with her ears and to hear; not just
with her ears but also with her eyes.
She learns to speak and communicate not
just through her voice, but also through her thoughts, her decisions and her
actions.
These traits or abilities combined, are commonly referred to by
some as; "female (or woman’s) intuition". They are unique to female minded
people, and are an understood and subconsciously expected fundamental used by
humans to Identify the female sex identity.
Often their development in a girl, corresponds with aging
and fading beauty. Developing these traits becomes necessary for her in order
to maintain validity and a perception in her society of worth.
IE: the beauty of youth that society once valued her for, has faded (or is fading),
and if she is to maintain value to society and to a mate, (and therefore not
end up alone and unloved) she needs to develop in herself other ways to be
seen as valuable and purposeful
To be a girl is special, it is a gift.
To be a woman is also special, but it is not a gift, it is a
responsibility.
No doubt it is Special and unique in its own ways to be a
boy and then a man as well
However, I cannot talk to that subject as that is not who or
what I AM, what I am becoming, or what am destined to be, just as someone with a
male (innate) sex identity, might pontificate were he to attempt the same with
regards to womanhood.
